how to speak so that people will listen transcript

in today's video I'm going to show you how communication has changed my life and how I was able to build a seven figure company up the fact of being 21 years old within under 7even months and especially how I capitalize on the fact of understanding how I can create and make the best out of every single situation the first step I want you to understand that every single time you approach someone you speak to someone you communicate or interact with someone the outcome is extremely important so the outcome of the point of the conversation is the most important asset that you can leverage so the approach changes whenever you're speaking to a girl whenever you're speaking to a business partner maybe you have a shareholder meeting with a lot of high value people the type of approach and the interaction the purpose of the meeting the purpose of the conversation or interaction is completely different so you have to change your approach based on the outcome and I can confidently tell you right now that most people will never learn how to communicate well because communication is a process that need you need to have patience for you to learn how to communicate you need to take actions people procrastinate people are afraid all these interactions happen when you need to learn how to communicate and most people don't dare to do that so you are very special whenever you're watching this video because you can change this for yourself does that mean it's not going to take time does that mean you are a Godly Communicator tomorrow absolutely not it's going to take a lot of time but the only thing that I can tell you right now is that you will never be able to communicate clearly towards the market towards other people towards anybody when you think like a cow when you are not thinking clearly the way you come across towards other people will be vague will not be clear so your thinking patterns a line are completely in line with the way you communicate towards other people right because when you think clearly your approach will be extremely efficient in the way you talk to people in the way you even smile to people in the way you do everything to people okay and exactly because of that this reason when you think clearly your communication will be clearly and people will respect the things that you say people will take the things serious that you say right people will want to interact with you and ask you questions about how you have done certain things you become valuable you add value within their situation okay and the purpose of this YouTube video is for you to potentially book a call and work with me right that could be the outcome toward watchs that could be the outcome that I was talking about towards the approach that I take because the approach will be dependent I need to speak to you in a certain way whenever I want you to book in a call with me I also need to change change the approach whenever I'm on a s call whenever I'm on a s call the way I communicate is completely different because I want that person to understand that my solution is the thing that solves his or her problem and that is exactly the reason why people pay me close to five figures when your thinking process is clear you can communicate towards your audience correctly that is why understanding other people understanding your audience understanding your ICP understanding the person that you're targeting is one of the most interesting things that you can ever focus on because this is what will allow you to profit from communication communication is the interaction that I make towards you right now that is exactly the reason why you're watching this video if I you wouldn't think I could provide value towards you you would have already clicked off the video but the reason why I'm providing value towards you is because the things that I tell you is there is a slight chance that it will solve your problem in some sort of way so you can take an action towards solving your problems after this video right and you understanding your audience understanding your ICP is the exact thing that allows you to turn normal communication into a reward could be money could be peace could be friendships could be anything but when we specifically talk about business it will turn it into money and that is exactly what we need in this scenario so when you logically understand yourself this is the big mistake I see people make and this is the reason why people cannot skill past six figures a year right the reason why they stay stuck they stay stuck at $5 to $10,000 a month is because they do understand themselves they understand how to communicate towards themselves and towards a small amount of people but they don't understand their audience they don't know what the person that has the exact problem that they can solve needs for them to actually get paid to provide the solution that you have right because you get paid based on the amount of value that you can provide towards people so when you understand people like logically instead of only yourself when you understand your audience from a logical perspective people are going to pay you so much money because your messaging your communication the way you provide your value towards the market is in line with what they need and that is why they will pay you but there's mainly one roadblock here okay the expectation that you set towards communicating with people the expectation that you set towards people is the is going to be dependent on the longevity of the communication so you can interact with people you can make them known who you are you know certain people in your area you probably know right you know people that can communicate very good and after you've known them for a while you're kind of you know they make you tired they they don't come they don't give the right energy toward other of people and that is exactly why expectation is important the first impression that you make towards on a YouTube video on a sales call on a client interaction on a meeting interaction anything will be dependent on the longevity you want to set the expectation right to optimize for longevity that is how you retain clients okay longevity is a complete different thing than Communication in general you have short communication and you have long communication long-term communication and this is how you build long-term relationships this is how you build a system where people actually care about the person who you are instead of only the the the the face that you present you know what I mean and listen I don't even speak fluent English so I'm not saying you need to speak fluent English to be able to communicate value towards the market I'm very good at articulating certain things putting conviction behind that to make you believe that what I'm telling you is true but listen now the most important stuff comes because I can tell you all stuff and you can believe me based on what I tell you you could right that's kind of [ __ ] to be honest I wouldn't do that to be honest but I've learned that you always need to look at people social proof so what I do within my company is I every single thing that I say is something that I say with an intention you can feel and you can hear that every single thing I say is with the right intention and based on my experience or something I've done myself I would never be able to speak confident about something that I don't know [ __ ] about okay and this can back it up with social proof client results I show interactions and interviews with my clients I show in-person meetings with my clients I show client Retreats of what I'm going to do we're going to go to Dubai with a couple clients that is social proof so don't always believe what people are telling you but also understand that it needs to be backed with social proof when I made my story video on YouTube you guys see my story video right how it went from zero to making a to building a seven figure company in seven months I made a story about that on my YouTube video and I share screenshots I share me standing on a roof being a roofer making 1.2k a month with the December 2022 screenshot like I show stuff so there is actually a point behind what I'm telling you right and that is very important because otherwise that is the reason why so many gurus in this market come across as scammers because they don't have proof of concept towards what they're are communicating so nobody would ever believe that okay as I always talk about generating attention and converting attention selling basically selling is a six-figure skill set being able to keep people's attention is a seven fig skill set and I'll explain you direct social proof towards that you're watching this video right now I can keep your attention for already over 10 minutes and then you say Nick 10 minutes doesn't seem like a lot that doesn't seem like a lot the average person needs seven hours of content to convert and to trust a person on the internet okay so 10 minutes stack up because I have 100 YouTube videos on my channel so you can watch more I have more social proof I have more content on my Instagram so the importance of understanding how you can keepy people's attention is in combination with hooks it's in combination with adding value it's in combination with understanding how to like actually say things that is of Interest towards the audience towards the viewer towards you right and that is exactly the reason why you don't click off so you have to understand as a speaker as a public speaker as a Communicator in general as a person of how you can keep people's interests and keeping people's interests nowadays in this market is one of the most complicated things there is know when to listen and when to speak one of the most valuable lessons I learned because I spoke a lot when I was younger I was only talking talking talking talking and that means that the more you talk if you talk for 90% and you're silent for 10% do you think people are going to perceive this as more valuable this or do you think people are going to perceive this is more valuable I assume that people are going to that that people are going to assume that this is more valuable the reason why is because this is scarce this is less and people like less right because when there is not a lot of it it is valuable so that means that if this is only 10% and this is 90% every single time people people are listening to what you are saying they're listening but they're not do you know what I'm talking about like do you sometimes have the feeling that people are listening to you but they basically don't know what you're talking about then you're talking too much so you just got to shut up you got to listen to people more so every time you talk you switch the perspective you're talking for 10% and you're listening for 90% so what do people perceive as more valuable right now of course the Talking part so that means that whenever you want to bring a message across the water people they will be able to listen to you so you can talk and that is exactly the reason and the thing that will'll make a change being able to talk from a valuable perspective allows you to make change 90% talking it doesn't change anything people won't take different actions because what you're saying is useless people won't care they wanton nothing you're not valuable so at that point what are you even doing you're just you're just yapping right so you want to get to understand of how to talk for 10% instead of talking for 90% I can tell you one thing now one of the biggest lessons I learned from this perspective is like learning how to talk less just shut up sometimes if you want to say things don't talk don't give too much away about yourself that is how you become valuable because you stay my you are a mysterious person whenever people don't exactly know what you do who you are what you have achieved Etc when you say and you talk about yourself all the time openly to everybody there is no sauce left there is no that that mysterious key you know is open everybody knows who you are what you do Etc and that is very powerful within certain situations within relationships or within you know whether that's with your girl whether that's with with a good friend it could be very powerful to open up yourself uh because it builds trust it builds an insane amount of trust although within business it could be slightly different because giving every everything away for free all the time makes you less valuable because most people tell me all the time Nick is there a specific strategy behind Str today I have some some problems with writing it's crazy I don't have problems with talking with communicating but I do have problems with writing uh you basically talk about Nick is there a specific strategy right no the reason of how like there is no right way in communication it's not that the louder you talk the better you communicate the more conviction you have the better you communicate that varies per person so the way I'm communicating right now that's me you'll you'll realize the same Nick whenever you're talking to me right now or whenever you're talking to me in real life right of course I will be more quiet sometimes and sometimes I'll talk more but understand the importance of that being yourself coming from a perspective of expressing expressing your energy from your inner s is the thing that will allow you to change yourself towards other people from them to get to understand who you really are Str the strategy is being you and I'll tell you this right now it sounds boring what is a personal brand a personal brand is built based on the fact of a person otherwise it's not called a personal brand the reason why most people fail with their personal Brands is because they trying to copy other personal Brands and then it's not personal anymore so it won't work anymore there is no strategy behind that you have to be yourself and I want you to be yourself because every single person that you'll interact with knows deep down that or if not speaking for you speaking to you for the first time knows whenever you speak to that person for the second time that that person is fake you know that as well you know certain people in your area that whenever you speak to them you know they're like they're not themselves they're not who they are who who they who they truly are and people will feel that right when you want to be effective you must be understood and communication is literally the key to being understood and this is something I want you to practice this is so important and this is the reason why I bring myself the things that I want and why I can also bring my clients the things that they want because now it becomes interesting the reason why I give client results is because I understand how I need to express the solution that that I have to them so they understand and receive it correctly so they can solve their problem and I can help them solve their problem through accountability in communication systems communication is a new currency okay like time is important everybody knows time is important money is useless money is completely useless time is important communication is important so make sure that you use your time correctly to communicate towards the right people you don't want to use your potential while communicating to the wrong people because that drags you down so Choose Wisely in terms of the people that you interact with the people that you work with if you ever feel like somebody can help you solve your problem pay that person get into the business of that person interact with that person because that will change your life tremendously the reason why I got here is not because I try to do everything myself it's because because I got mentors it's because I got friends that has helped me is because I took actions that got me in a different situation towards me getting to the situation where I'm at now right solving problems is the key to what's growth and that is exactly why I made this video for you to potentially solve a problem take con action and the big thing is if you could have done it yourself you would have already gotten it if you can understand how to humble yourself and how to set yourself in a slight different position than having a big ego you learn how to grow growth is being created when you can start listening listening is the most valuable skill on earth right because when you listen you can communicate that's what we just talked about so I didn't got to the point where I'm at now without help I didn't got to this point if I didn't know how to communicate didn't know how to build an appointment setting operation didn't know how to structure a team didn't know how I give client results and that is exactly the reason why every single person should be seeking for help and there are people that speak towards you that you feel connected with and if that's the case then start interacting more with these people get access to these people get access to these Solutions get access to the interactions and the style of communication why do you think I go to Dubai on a clown retreat in two days I'm flying to Dubai and in seven days I have a clown retreat in Dubai with seven of my clients and the reason why I do that is because I'm tired of Zoom all these in like online meetings it's nice but I want to have an in-person experience with the people that I like to be around with that I like to communicate with and that is why this is so valuable the biggest trap lies in opportunity costs right because opportunity cost is one of the most valuable decisions and actions you can make and take towards creating a new opportunity that could give you exponential growth right compounding growth and that is what you want so find the person that you feel comfortable working with and work with that person whether that's me I don't care if it's not me pick off the video please do it but do it towards the person that you feel comfortable with because that person is going to help you communicate better do do your Outreach better do your appointment setting better build up your business help you help you increase your closing rate everything okay because you'll believe in that person and believe changes character it changes action it changes [ __ ] paradigms right it changes everything and that is what I would suggest you to do if you want to build up your office you want to skill of acquisition you want to get more clients you're tired of not being able to communicate well towards the audience through your content YouTube videos anything that you make um shoot me a DM and book in a call in the description whenever you want my help I appreciate the time that you took towards uh watching this video for that long because lifes span of like how do you say that the the time span right now nowadays what I told you is crazy so we're going to call right now um I can answer all your questions uh I'm not really helping people communicate to be very honest with you what I mainly do is I skill companies I built and sell Consulting infrastructures and that is the thing that allowed me to generate the money that I make right now so so that's basically what I help people do but communicating is basically a part of being able to sell being able to communicate being able to bring your experience to the market I appreciate your time and see you in the next video bye-bye